Post by Kolakube on Apr 20, 2005 13:46:37 GMT -5
Okay - instead of just having random posts about the whole issue, lets have a proper thread.
You know what, having heard all I have so far and taking it into account, a few things have struck me making me think it may not be a good idea to go into rehab at a young age like Matt has.
I dunno - I don't want you all jumping on my back with the - "you have no right to say that" remarks but this is what I personally think.
Matt is 21, he has his whole life ahead of him. Yes, It's become clear his drinking is out of hand and out of control but it may be the case that he needs moderation instead of a complete drying out session. He's a rowdy popstar and It's a long time to be dry from now on. The amount of showbiz dos he'll probably attend in his life time are bound to all tempt him and he'll end up back in the shits again - however. If he only drinks in moderation he's more likely to be able to control himself.
If someone who's dry goes on a bender, it's likely to do more harm than it would to some one who already slightly drinks.
Right - Point 2. This is gonna be long. The post that is - not the point.
This thing with his therapist putting him into isolation - What a load of bullshit. What normal person thinks it's better to cope through troubled times on your own?
Apparently his drinking pals - including James - have been cut off through his choice (although it was probably heavily "advised" by his la di da therapist - lets face it, he's probably in no position to disagree. He wants to get better and they've probably told him this is what to do.) yet his girlfriend hasn't. The same girlfriend who he went out to various pubs and clubs and got pissed with and the same girl he was "drinking partners" with before they started dating. That to me doesn't add up.
Infact - If I was a therapist - and I'm not - I would have thought that it would be better to have friends and not lovers. (Note this isn't because I don't like the girl - this is purely my logical explaination) You have a mate - they want to care for you and they understand that you have massive things on your plate - i.e getting yourself sorted - they don't care if your offy with them - as long as they know your okay. Lovers - well suddenly - they're not top of your list anymore - they want to be loved and when your concentratoing on yourself you just can't do that as much. they get stressed because they think you don't appreciate your help and don't love them anymore. FULL STOP.
Plus what about his family? Are they banned as well? Infact if there's anyone that 100% shouldn't be banned it's family - they'll love you whatever.
Oh and one - final comment - because I had loads of points to make but have forgotten them all.
It says in that article - that Emma dropped him off and she'll pick him up when he's done. All this time she's in Manchester doing some MTV stuff. AND she's been speaking to magazones about the whole thing.
Sounds to me just like someone dropping their dog off in a kennel while they go away.
You know what, having heard all I have so far and taking it into account, a few things have struck me making me think it may not be a good idea to go into rehab at a young age like Matt has.
I dunno - I don't want you all jumping on my back with the - "you have no right to say that" remarks but this is what I personally think.
Matt is 21, he has his whole life ahead of him. Yes, It's become clear his drinking is out of hand and out of control but it may be the case that he needs moderation instead of a complete drying out session. He's a rowdy popstar and It's a long time to be dry from now on. The amount of showbiz dos he'll probably attend in his life time are bound to all tempt him and he'll end up back in the shits again - however. If he only drinks in moderation he's more likely to be able to control himself.
If someone who's dry goes on a bender, it's likely to do more harm than it would to some one who already slightly drinks.
Right - Point 2. This is gonna be long. The post that is - not the point.
This thing with his therapist putting him into isolation - What a load of bullshit. What normal person thinks it's better to cope through troubled times on your own?
Apparently his drinking pals - including James - have been cut off through his choice (although it was probably heavily "advised" by his la di da therapist - lets face it, he's probably in no position to disagree. He wants to get better and they've probably told him this is what to do.) yet his girlfriend hasn't. The same girlfriend who he went out to various pubs and clubs and got pissed with and the same girl he was "drinking partners" with before they started dating. That to me doesn't add up.
Infact - If I was a therapist - and I'm not - I would have thought that it would be better to have friends and not lovers. (Note this isn't because I don't like the girl - this is purely my logical explaination) You have a mate - they want to care for you and they understand that you have massive things on your plate - i.e getting yourself sorted - they don't care if your offy with them - as long as they know your okay. Lovers - well suddenly - they're not top of your list anymore - they want to be loved and when your concentratoing on yourself you just can't do that as much. they get stressed because they think you don't appreciate your help and don't love them anymore. FULL STOP.
Plus what about his family? Are they banned as well? Infact if there's anyone that 100% shouldn't be banned it's family - they'll love you whatever.
Oh and one - final comment - because I had loads of points to make but have forgotten them all.
It says in that article - that Emma dropped him off and she'll pick him up when he's done. All this time she's in Manchester doing some MTV stuff. AND she's been speaking to magazones about the whole thing.
Sounds to me just like someone dropping their dog off in a kennel while they go away.
